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Tipe Melajang 1. Involuntary temporary single 2. Voluntary temporary single 3. Involuntary stable single
Dampak Positif Memiliki kebebasan Lebih santai Lebih mandiri Kesempatan untuk membahagiakan orangtua 5. Tidak ada beban 6. Lebih fleksibel 7. Lebih menikmati hidup 1. 2. 3. 4.
WANITA DEWASA YANG BELUM MENIKAH
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6.
Faktor Yang Berpengaruh Trauma perceraian Budaya Belum ketemu jodoh Belum berani Cepat bosan Risih terhadap lawan jenis
Dampak Negatif 1. Kesulitan pemenuhan kebutuhan seksual 2. Kesulitan pemenuhan rasa cinta dan kasih sayang 3. Diremehkan lawan jenis 4. Mendapatkan gombalan dari lawan jenis 5. Mendapatkan tekanan 6. Tuduhan negatif 7. Ajakan nikah siri dan menjadi istri simpanan 8. Ajakan untuk menjadi pasangan lesbian 9. Risih dengan panggilan ‘ibu’ 10. Merasa risih dengan lawan jenis 11. Tidak ada pasangan untuk berbagi
Gambar 5. Deskripsi Kesejahteraan Subjektif Wanita Dewasa Yang Belum Menikah
Afek Positif 1. Bahagia 2. Berserah diri 3. Tidak putus asa 4. Tidak sakit hati 5. Tidak menyalahkan takdir 6. Berpikir positif 7. Percaya Tuhan 8. Santai 9. Tidak risih 10. Mendekatkan diri dengan Tuhan 11. Intropeksi diri 12. Merasa muda 13. Tidak khawatir 14. Merasa berharga 15. Mudah senang 16. Bersyukur 17. Bangga pada diri sendiri 18. Menikmati hidup 19. Tidak menyesali masa lalu 20. Tidak iri 21. Tidak menyalahkan diri sendiri
1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Afek Negatif Risih Jenuh dengan pekerjaan Sedih Khawatir Miris
1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7.
Kepuasan Hidup Pekerjaan Kemampuan finansial Mempunyai banyak teman Mempunyai sahabat Dukungan keluarga Kesibukan Kegiatan sosial
Tujuan Hidup 1. Fokus dengan pekerjaan 2. Menjadi individu yang lebih baik 3. Membahagiakan orangtua 4. Membahagiakan diri sendiri 5. Membahagiakan orang banyak 6. Menghasilkan banyak materi 7. Membanggakan orangtua 8. Bermanfaat bagi orang lain
KESEJAHTERAAN SUBJEKTIF
LAMPIRAN G : HORIZONALISATION OF DATA DAN MEANING UNITS
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