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paling menggembirakan buat seseorang kecuali pada saat orang itu merayakan ulang tahun-nya. Apalagi kalau banyak orang yang datang untuk turut merayakan dan bersama-sama bergembira di dalam kebahagiaan perayaan ulang tahun-nya yang ke-22 tersebut. Pernahkah Anda merayakan hari ulang tahun dan yang hadir lebih dari seratus orang, dan makanan yang tersedia begitu melimpah ruah? Apakah Anda akan bisa mengukur kebahagiaan Anda di tengahtengah lautan manusia yang sedang makan minum dan bercakap-cakap, manusia yang datang dan pergi, yang sedang tertawa dan menyendiri. Yang tua dan yang muda semua bercampur baur menjadi satu hanya untuk merayakan ulang tahun Anda? Apakah perasaan Anda pada saat itu? Bahagiakah Anda? Puaskah Anda? Ataukah Anda cuma akan lelah karena terlalu sibuk untuk menyalami tamu-tamu Anda untuk mengucapkan terima kasih atas kedatangan mereka dan berbasa-basi dengan mereka satu dua kata menanyai bagaimana keadaan mereka? Sebelum Anda sempat menyalami semua tamu yang hadir, mungkin Anda sudah merasa lelah dan bosan dengan kata-kata yang sama yang diulang-ulang tanpa Anda sendiri sadar apa yang akhirnya Anda ucapkan tersebut. Anda akhirnya merasa exhausted, lelah dan ngantuk. Ulang tahun yang Anda harapkan akan menjadi hari yang menggembirakan buat Anda malah menjadi hari yang paling melelahkan, mungkin hari yang Anda paling tidak sukai, hari yang paling Anda benci di dalam hidup Anda dibandingkan dengan hari-hari yang lain. Apakah hal yang sama terjadi di dalam perayaan ulang tahun gereja kita yang ke-22 ini? Apakah yang gereja kita rasakan kalau gereja kita ini mempunyai perasaan? Apakah yang akan dikatakan oleh gereja kita atas kedatangan kita ke gereja kita selama ini dan terutama di dalam kita merayakan ulang tahun-nya yang ke-22 ini? Apakah gereja kita juga akan exhausted, lelah dan ngantuk? Karena gereja kita terlalu sibuk untuk meladeni kita dan memperhatikan dan menanyakan keadaan kita? Apakah kita telah membuat gereja kita feel boring about us? Seperti kita ketahui bahwa gereja adalah rumah di mana nama Tuhan tinggal di dalamnya. Kalau kedatangan kita membuat gereja kita exhausted, bored dan ngantuk, apakah kita telah membuat Tuhan merasa bosan, lelah dan ngantuk terhadap kita?
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Kalau benar demikian... mungkin sudah saatnya kita harus meninjau diri kita masing-masing sebagai jemaat rumah Tuhan di GII Azusa ini. Apa yang salah yang telah kita lakukan yang mana telah membuat Tuhan menjadi lelah dan bosan terhadap kita?
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Mungkin sudah saat nya kita lah yang harus memperhatikan gereja kita bukan gereja kita yang harus terus-menerus memperhatikan keadaan kita. Apakah yang sudah kita lakukan yang bisa membuat Tuhan bahagia terhadap kita? Apakah yang sudah kita lakukan terhadap gereja kita yang mana bisa membuat gereja kita tersenyum puas dan bahagia dengan kedatangan kita ke gereja setiap minggu? Apakah yang bisa kita lakukan yang mana bisa membuat gereja kita terlihat semakin cantik dan menarik sehingga bisa membuat orang -orang yang ada di sekitar gereja kita menjadi curious dan ingin mencari tahu kenapa gereja kita begitu cantik dan menarik di mata mereka? Apakah kita bisa membuat gereja kita akan kelihatan begitu cantik dan menarik dan bisa membuat orang-orang yang belum percaya juga datang ke gereja kita dan diselamatkan? Kalau kita bisa membuat gereja kita menjadi wadah keselamatan buat orang yang belum percaya maka satu hal yang pasti yang kita akan ketahui adalah bahwa Tuhan tidak akan pernah merasa bosan, lelah dan ngantuk terhadap kita, malah sebaliknya kita akan bisa membuat Tuhan tersenyum bahagia dan suatu saat Tuhan akan berkata kepada kita: “baik sekali perbuatanmu itu, hai hambaKu yang baik dan setia; engkau telah setia dalam perkara kecil, Aku akan memberikan tanggung jawab dalam perkara yang besar. Masuklah dan turutlah dalam kebahagiaan Tuanmu.” (Matius 25:21)
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Penasehat Ev. Wilson Suwanto Daniel Loe Editor Evelyn Sunarko Janice Atmadja Marcia Japutra Rachel Atmadja Ilustrator & Fotografer Joshua Adidjaja Martha Raharja Pilipus Santoso Layout Eva Leony Martha Raharja Tesia Trisnadi Tjandra Afandi Kontributor Rev. Kristianto Hosea Ev. Wilson Suwanto Mrs. Joy Simona Rachel Yao Jessica Kawilarang Printing Semiwaty Oei Special Thanks The participants of The Graduates on A Roll and From Your Baby Boys articles. E-mail Redaksi
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focus:
The Age of Loneliness Being alone in a seaa oof people Activities buzzing, loneliness screaming Where are my friends—is there a friend? Is God with me? 07 The First Time I Commit Suicide 11 The Heartbeat of a Community 13 Dealing with Loneliness among the Living
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16 Facing the Problem of Loneliness
05 Renungan: Bersyukur, Bersyukur, Bersyukur 20 Parenting: Help Your Teen Develop a Biblical Worldview 26 Book Review: Faith, God, and Rock N Roll 29 Event: The Graduates on a Roll 32 Culinary: Looking for Good Eats? 34 Music Corner: Sea of Faces by Kutless 38 Quiz: Word Search 39 Humor Poems etc.: 19 God is with Us
e! n i l 35 Famous Quotes on Christian Living n tml o e 'r agape.h 36 From Your Baby Boys e w t eb/ a w _ h c t t sa.org/ie e g r fo lax.gii-u t ' Donvisit us @ 25 Tante Mona's poems
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oleh: Rev. Kristianto Hosea
Dalam rangka HUT ke-22 GII Azusa, dimana Tuhan telah melakukan pekerjaanNya yang sangat indah selama 22 tahun. Hanya Dialah yang patut dipuji, dihormati, dan dimuliakan. Oleh sebab itu ada tiga pengucapan syukur kepada Tuhan yang demikian baiknya terhadap kita.
1. Kita bersyukur atas pimpinan-Nya GII Azusa adalah didirikan oleh tangan Tuhan sendiri. Maka tangan Tuhan tetap memimpinnya selama 22 tahun. Dan Dia tidak pernah tinggalkan Gereja-Nya, meskipun di dalam gelombang apa pun saja. Karena kasih setia-Nya terhadap Gereja-Nya tidak berubah sampai selama-lamanya. Oleh sebab itu kita harus bersyukur atas pimpinan-Nya terhadap GII Azusa selama 22 tahun. Seperti Pemazmur bersyukur atas pimpinan Tuhan kepada umat-Nya:
“Kepada Dia yang memimpin umat-Nya melalui padang gurun! Bahwasanya untuk selamalamanya kasih setia-Nya.” Mazmur 136:16 AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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2. Kita bersyukur atas pelihara-Nya GII Azusa adalah milik Tuhan, maka Dialah tetap memelihara Gereja-Nya selama 22 tahun. Meskipun si jahat dengan bermacam-macam caranya untuk merusak Gereja-Nya selama 22 tahun ini. Akan tetapi Tuhan tetap melindungi dam memelihara Gereja-Nya. Maka kita harus bersyukur atas pelihara-Nya terhada GII Azusa selama 22 tahun ini. Bagaimana pemeliharaan Tuhan terhadap Gereja-Nya?
“Peliharalah aku seperti biji mata, sembunyikanlah aku dalam daungan sayap-Mu.” Mazmur 17:8
3. Kita bersyukur atas berkat-Nya Tuhan sungguh memberkati GII Azusa dengan berkelimpahan selama 22 tahun ini. Banyak sekali jiwa diselamatkan dan iman mereka bertambah dan berbuah bagi Tuhan. Banyak yang sudah kembali ke Indonesia jadi berkat di dalam keluarga mereka dan gereja-gereja Tuhan. Oleh sebab itu kita harus bersyukur atas berkat Tuhan terhadap GII Azusa sejak mulai sampai sekarang ini. Seperti Rasul Paulus mengucap syukur kepada Tuhan atas berkat Tuhan terhadap Gereja Filipi:
“Aku mengucap syukur kepada Allahku karena persekutuanmu dalam Berita Injil mulai dari hari pertama sampai sekarang ini.” Filipi 1:5 Akhir kata, kita harus senantiasa bersyukur kepada-Nya dan tidak lupa atas pimpinan, peliharaan, dan berkat Tuhan selama 22 tahun ini. Dan kita harus kembalikan segala kehormatan dan kemuliaan hanya kepada Tuhan Bapa kita yang di sorga. Amin! 6
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enit terakhir sebelum aku menelan semua narkoba dan obat tidur ini aku masih mengharapkan telpon di rumahku dan cellularku berdering. Tapi sepanjang hari ini tidak ada satu pun yang menelpon aku... atau mengetuk pintu rumahku yang kosong melompong dan dingin seperti hatiku yang sedang membeku dari ‘kemanusiaan’ dan fresh dengan ‘kesetanan’ aku mengatakan diriku penuh dengan unsur-unsur yang jahat, unsur-unsur yang merusak yang merupakan sifat yang paling disukai oleh iblis, setan, dedemit, jin, tuyul atau segala macam rohroh jahat lainnya. Karena hari ini aku merencanakan akan mengakhiri lembaran hidupku dengan paksa, dengan rengutan maut dari narkoba, obat tidur Valium 5 serta bantuan dari minuman keras yang akan melanglang buana di dalam badanku ini. Walaupun ini adalah pertama kali bagiku untuk bunuh diri, tapi ini adalah salah satu dari kebiasaanku yang selalu suka mencoba sesuatu yang baru untuk memuaskan diriku. Aku ini pembosan, tidak pernah puas dengan apa yang ada. Well, sebenarnya sampai saat ini tidak ada satu pun yang bisa memuaskan aku: harta, makanan, game, sex, obat bius, semua sudah aku coba, sampai pada pilihan yang terakhir aku menuruti perintah orang tuaku untuk ke gereja, walaupun pada mulanya di dalam pikiranku aku yakin kalau orang-orang gereja ini adalah cuma pathetic, loser, low self-esteem, tidak percaya diri, cuma membius diri mereka dengan doktrin-doktrin yang tidak masuk akal. Tapi aku berpikir apa salahnya aku mencoba, AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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toh aku senang berpetualang dan senang men-‘thrill’-kan diriku dengan hal-hal yang mengagetkan sehingga aku selalu menemukan pengalaman yang baru. Tapi rupanya ini pun adalah usaha yang sia-sia juga. Soon I got bored and disgusted to be among them or to be around them. Pada mulanya memang di luar dugaanku, ke gereja rupanya agak menyenangkan juga, apalagi di persekutuan pemudapemudinya. Aku tidak menyangka kalau mereka menjamu aku bukan karena hartaku, atau penampilanku yang “tidak norak” tapi ‘up-to-date’ dan yang jelas aku tidak ‘jelek’ alias ‘handsome’. Tapi mereka ‘menerima’-ku apa adanya, karena mereka mau menjadi ‘temanku’. Aku tidak menyangka sama sekali kalau mereka men‘treat’ aku bagaikan ‘prince’ karena ‘mobil sport’-ku yang mewah. Atau mungkin kemudian mereka mengetahui kalau aku ‘anak tunggal’ orang kaya. Pada saat aku mengetahui semua itu, aku mulai merasa tidak kerasan datang ke gereja, yang ternyata tidak ada bedanya dengan orang di luar gereja. Satu satu perbedaan antara orang gereja dan bukan orang gereja hanyalah ‘gereja’-nya. Kalau orang dunia tidak menginjak gereja, tapi orang kristen menginjak gereja dan hang around di gereja. Soal sifat dan kebiasaan tidak bisa dibedakan kalau mereka yang menyebut diri mereka orang kristen itu berada di luar gereja. Hal ini pernah aku lihat sewaktu di mall aku run into orang gereja yang mengembalikan barang yang ditolak oleh customer service karena kelihatannya barang yang akan dikembalikan ‘telah over used’ tidak bisa dikembalikan lagi. Tapi orang kristen ini tetap ngotot dan marah-marah sampai semua pengunjung floor itu melihatnya, tetapi orang kristen yang ‘jahat’ ini tidak sampai di situ saja 8
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‘make a scene’-nya dia minta dipanggilkan supervisornya yang tentu saja orang yang lebih berkuasa ini ‘mengalah’ dari pada ada kesan ‘keributan’ terjadi di floor di mana menjadi tanggung jawab supervisor ini. Lalu sewaktu aku tanya kenapa dia ngotot seperti itu jawabannya adalah karena masih dalam period of refund, walaupun dia akui dia sudah bosen memakainya..... lalu kejadian-kejadian lain juga secara tidak langsung aku dengar atau saksikan.. jadi aku merasa untuk apa aku ke gereja kalau cuma menjadi munafik dan jahat seperti bukan orang gereja? Alasanku untuk ke gereja adalah untuk menjadi orang baik setelah aku merasa aku ini orang jahat. Tapi kalau orang gereja itu tidak pernah menjalankan ‘kebaikan’ dari ajaran kristen ini dalam hidup mereka, untuk apa mereka ke gereja? Hanya untuk masuk surga? Tapi tetap hidup seperti ‘iblis’ di dalam dunia ini? Apakah itu mungkin? Apakah di surga itu cuma dipenuhi oleh ‘iblis-iblis yang mengaku dirinya orang kristen?’ Aku hampir tidak ke gereja lagi selama satu bulan. Perasaan senang berada di tengah-tengah jemaat Tuhan adalah sangat indah dan sangat ingin kurasakan kembali..., tapi kini tampaknya aku kehilangan saat yang indah itu. Akhirnya aku mendapatkan akal untuk menguji apakah akan tetap diperlakukan sama kalau aku mendadak jatuh miskin? Aku lalu sengaja membeli mobil tua dan membawanya ke gereja di dalam persekutuan muda-mudi. Mereka bertanya apa yang terjadi? Aku cuma mengatakan orang tuaku bangkrut. Satu demi satu orang yang biasanya mendekati dan ngobrol denganku mundur teratur. Suatu hari ada surprise party, aku pas amprokan dengan orang yang mengurus surprise party tersebut. Celakanya aku
bertanya apa yang sedang diurusnya? Karena aku bertanya maka aku diajak untuk ikutan? Aku berkata boleh. Ketika kepada orang yang lain aku bertanya kok surprise party-nya mendadak sekali, kan kalau kepepet kaya gini bisa bentrokan dengan agendaku? Tapi orang tersebut berkata padaku kalau orang sudah ditanyai sejak tiga minggu yang lalu. Aku merasa terpukul dengan semua ini. Rupanya bener kalau orang-orang gereja bisa lebih jahat daripada orang yang bukan kristen sama sekali. Aku totally drop semangatku rasa rindu dan menikmati indahnya persekutuan yang getarannya dirasakan oleh iman dan hatiku ini. Sebulan sudah lewat dan tak ada satu pun yang mencari aku atau menelpon aku. Aku sedih dan kecewa. Sekarang benar-benar aku terbentur pada karang kesunyian dan kebosanan yang amat sangat. Aku menyesal kalau dulu aku mau mencoba untuk datang ke gereja kalau aku tahu ujungnya akan seperti ini, lebih menyakitkan dari kecanduan obat bius atau minuman keras. Aku tidak akan pernah mau menginjak gereja. Sekarang aku telah berbalik ke dunia gelap dan terkutuk lagi. Aku masih mengharapkan ada yang datang ke rumahku dan membesuk aku dan aku bisa membuktikan kalau aku masih tetap orang kaya yang mempunyai banyak uang dan mereka boleh lagi datang padaku dan menanyakan apakah mau menjadi donor ini dan itu seperti sebelum aku berpura-pura bangkrut. Tapi apa yang kuharapkan? Telpon saja tidak berdering apalagi mengharapkan orang datang mengunjungi aku? Aku tahu kalau hidupku memang tampaknya ditentukan oleh aku sendiri, akulah yang berhak menentukan mati hidupnya aku sendiri. Pada saat pikiran ini
menyelinap pikiranku aku mulai berpikir untuk bunuh diri. Aku membeli Valium 5, dan segala macam narkoba serta minuman keras karena aku yakin kalau semua dicombine jadi satu pasti akan merupakan cara yang paling nikmat meninggalkan dunia ini. Aku sudah coba pergi ke gereja dan menemukan arti kehidupan... tapi rupanya itu cuma sementara dan banyak hal yang men-drive-ku away from God. Sebelum aku menenggak obat-obat bius tersebut, aku masih mengharapkan telpon berdering, aku lalu mencoba satu menit lagi dan menghitung dalam hati sampai bilangan satu menit. Tidak juga cellphone-ku berdering. Lalu dengan linangan air mata aku menelan satu demi satu dan mendorongnya melalui tenggorokanku dengan semua brandy, XO and Johny Walker. Ketika aku berlinang air mata, aku tiba-tiba tertawa... bukankah mencoba untuk mati ini dengan jalan bunuh diri adalah salah satu cara untuk memuaskan diriku. Tiga menit kemudian aku mulai merasakan ada reaksinya di dalam badanku yang tiba-tiba rasanya menjadi begitu berat sehingga aku jadi menggelesoh jatuh ke tanah tidak kuat menahan berat tubuhku. Aku tahu aku mulai menuju ke dunia kegelapan... semasih aku di lantai dan sebelum aku sempat bergerak bangun, di semua persendian tubuhku kura s akan panas yang luar biasa. Tibatiba sekali dan sangat mengagetkan aku yang se-
dang sekarat ini telpon berdering. KRING... KRING...... KRING....!!!! Aku marah sekali dan ingin membanting telpon tersebut sambil aku menyayangkan kenapa tidak berdering lima atau sepuluh menit yang lalu? Tapi biarpun begitu beratnya badanku dan pikiranku yang kacau balau seperti ini berjuta-juta kata seolah-olah ingin keluar dan melompat dari dalam mulutku. Aku mengangkat telpon tersebut. Dan cordless tersebut aku dekatkan pada telingaku dan terdengar suara di ujung sana. “Hallo....saya penginjil CHUANG, saya ingin berbicara dengan anda sudah sejak lama.. tapi karena saya sedang menghadapi final.. tapi hari ini desakan dalam hati saya begitu kuat makanya saya menelpon anda.. karena sepertinya Tuhan ingin saya berbicara dengan anda. Maaf selama ini saya belum sempat telpon.... anda sudah lama sekali tidak datang ke muda mudi” Aku menangis mendengar penjelasannya... aku baru mengetahui kalau Tuhan tidak ingin aku bunuh diri... buktinya Tuhan menyuruh hambaNya untuk menelpon aku... tapi rupanya segala-galanya sudah terlambat.... proses pembunuhan diri sedang berlangsung di dalam diriku ini.... “Maaf.. Ev. Chuang... aku harus segera pergi.....” “Lho mau pergi kemana, kok begitu terburu buru dan mendadak?” “Oh.. maaf.. kepergian ini telah direncanakan hampir satu bulan lamanya..” “Oh tidak bisakah anda share pada saya tentang masalah anda sebelum anda pergi....?” Proses kehilangan kesadaran semakin hebat menarik-narik diriku dan semua tulang, sumsum dan otot-ototku. “Good bye.. Ev. Chuang.. thanks for calling...” 10
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“Baiklah.. kalau anda terburu-buru.. saya cuma mau berkata.. kalau Tuhan sangat mengasihi anda dan Dia ingin menyelamatkan anda....” Kututup telpon. Dan aku menangis dengan kerasnya... “Oh Tuhan selamatkan aku... dan ampunilah aku telah mencoba membunuh diriku sendiri.....” Aku tiba-tiba ingat sesuatu langsung aku dengan susah payah mengambil telpon kembali dan mendial 911. “What city please....!” “Help me help me.. I am going to die by any minute.... so please send somebody here.... my addres is....” dengan susah payah aku berusaha menyebutkan address rumahku dan berusaha keras untuk melawan dunia kegelapan yang sedang berusaha menggelapkan semua pelita di dalam diriku. Sedikit demi sedikit badanku digerogoti oleh kehampaan dan kekelaman.... lain sekali kekelaman yang kurasakan sekarang ini dengan kekelaman karena kesunyian, tiada teman dan seorang diri. Aku merasakan semakin tenggelam di dalam kegelapan... tapi perlawanan terakhir yang bisa kulakukan adalah berusaha menghitung angka satu sampai seratus.. tapi beberapa kali aku rancu dan harus memulai dari nol kembali. The first time I commit suicide..... dan tampaknya berhasil, tetapi justru pada saat aku berhasil untuk bunuh diri itu justru aku menyesal melakukannya....... aku menangis dan meminta ampun pada Tuhan yang sebentar lagi mungkin akan aku temui muka dengan muka. I am totally lost... now.... at the same point I heard the siren and other noisy sounds come approaching my apartment. Darkness.
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The Heartbeat of a Community by: Rachel Atmadja taken from: Community, by Bill Hybels
Chicago Tribune writer Maria Paul took a risk when she wrote a self-revealing column confessing her own inability to build and sustain friendships. She wrote this column expecting little, if any, response. However, she was inundated with letters from others experiencing the same kind of isolation and frustration. One person wrote, “I’ve often felt like I’m standing outside looking through the window of a party to which I was not invited.” What a vivid picture! Do you ever feel that way? Do you ever have a sense of being on the outside looking in? Another woman wrote, “I have this fear of becoming a very lonely, old widow sitting around and listening to the clock tick.” This fear, she says, just about paralyzes her life. It is probably a well-founded fear, because she confessed in her letter that she has no sense of community. She has no family. She has no friendship or small group or church community of which she is a part. She feels that she’s going to die alone, and she may be right. In the summer of ’95, many people died in Chicago’s heat wave. I was shocked to read that forty-one of them were buried in a mass grave called “The Potter’s Field.’ Not a single person surfaced to claim their bodies or grieve their passing. Forty-one people died alone. Marla Paul ended her column about loneliness with these words: “Sometimes it seems easier to just give up and accept disconnectedness as a dark and unshakable companion; but, that’s not the companion I want.” She writes, “So I will persevere.” She is going to keep longing, searching, trying, and hoping that someday she will be able to discover and develop community. AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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• You perceive yourself in a negative way. You may become overly critical of your physical appearance. • You blame yourself and others for your poor social relationships. You falsely assume that nobody likes you. • You do not make any attempt to get involved in social activities. You expect everyone that you admire to like and include you in their activities and conversations. If they do not include you in their social activities you may become more withdrawn, angry and isolated from other activities. • You become self-conscious and worry unnecessarily about being evaluated by others. • You have difficulty in expressing your feelings and in engaging in assertive behavior. You are afraid to stand up for your rights and say “no” to unreasonable requests. • You avoid taking social risks, meeting people and new situations. You have difficulty introducing yourself, making telephone calls and participating in group activities. • You tend to expect others to reject you.
from: www.campusblues.com/stud_lonley.asp
• You feel isolated, alone and unhappy about your situation. • You may tend to see things out of proportion or overreact to situations.
The good news is that you do not have to continue to feel this way. There are ways to overcome loneliness, and we shall explore the topic of overcoming loneliness further in the following focus articles. [RA] 12
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Dealing with Loneliness among the Living
by: Marcia Japutra & Eva Leony summarized from: www.counsel.afl.edu
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ver since man was first created, it was understood that he can not live without companionship from others in his race. God understood Adam’s need for compan-
ionship, and in His grace he created Eve so she can accompany and help Adam take good care of the rest of God’s creatures. At this day and age, people live busy lives as they go to and fro working and/or going to school, while all the while balancing their schedules to make time for friends and families on outings and activities. However, amidst all the busy schedules that people have, many still suffer from
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Most of the loneliness experienced by people can be put under one of these two categories: loneliness from a horizontal (human-to-human) standpoint, and loneliness from a vertical (God-tohuman) standpoint. In this article we shall explore loneliness from the horizontal standpoint. The word ‘loneliness’ has several definitions: 1. The state of being alone in solitary isolation. 2. Sadness resulting from being forsaken or abandoned. 3. A disposition towards being alone.
away or lives far away. Another type of loneliness may involve feeling alone due to being physically isolated from other people, such as when one works night shifts or work in areas where no one else is really around. One may even feel emotionally isolated even when they are surrounded by people because they have a difficulty in reaching out or talking to people. People have tried to overcome loneliness in many effective ways.
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Other than those three meanings, loneliness can also be defined as a feeling of emptiness that makes a person feel isolated from the world. It can grow to become a major problem if one keeps dwelling in that feeling rather than breaking away from it.
Loneliness can be a minor discomfort, like when one feels that something is not right or when the weather outside is dark and gloomy. But loneliness can sometimes be extreme to a point where it dwells deep within the heart, causing an intense feeling of deprivation and pain. There are different types of loneliness that people deal with everyday. One may miss a specific individual in his or her life as that specific individual may have passed 14
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Like other problems, to overcome them, one must admit to the problem that they have. To stop feeling lonely, people have come to express their feelings in writing in a diary, writing a song, or drawing a picture. These acts may help them in dealing with their problem. By expressing their feelings, they are able to see where such feelings may be coming from. They can also recognize whether their feelings of loneliness may be connected to other feelings and realize how these feelings are connected to the loneliness that they felt. As connections are realized, one has a better route in making changes to better their lives in a healthy manner Being passive about one’s feelings often causes a person to continue to dwell in unwanted feelings. In order to deal with loneliness, many have come to become more active. For example,
when a person misses someone, such as a family member or a friend, they take action such as writing a letter or email, or picking up the phone and making a call. Talking to an understanding friend gives people a way to express their sadness or anger as shutting oneself to others may lead to untimely emotional breakdowns.
Many have sought help by talking with a pastor, teacher, or counselor. Also, if a person has lost someone that they love, remembering the happier moments and knowing that those memories will always be in their hearts will help that person move away from their loneliness. To overcome loneliness, many have also gotten more involved in activities and clubs. When one is involved in healthy and fun activities, they are able to take their minds off of the problems that they may have. It can give new opportunities, as they are able to meet other people with similar interests and it gives those who have a hard time in talking or reaching out to others a chance to practice their social skills. Loneliness is a feeling that everyone has felt one way or another. It has
reached across generations, from the lonely rebellious teen to the elderly. Dealing with loneliness, especially in its extreme form, is something that must be taken seriously. Many have tried to live in denial of loneliness by distracting themselves with work, school, and even video games. Many chose to accept their loneliness, either by sinking to depression or searching for human connections in many places. However, all the human companionship in the world can not substitute for the spiritual loneliness present in every human heart and mind. Intellectuals substituted their spiritual hunger for God with philosophies that question God’s existence, asking that “If God is just, why do bad things happen to good people?” Little did they realize that their thirst for answers is their GPS (God Positioning System) at work. Their quest for answers may just lead them to their Creator. As for the antidote to spiritual dryness, God’s offer of unconditional love and friendship still stands. [MJ/EL]
sources: www.counsel.ufl.edu/selfHelp/dealingWithLoneliness.asp www.boston.com/globe/search/stories/health/health_sense/042296.htm AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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by: Ev. Wilson Suwanto translated to English by: Rachel Atmadja
LONELINESS is a common condition experienced by all humanity, be they child or adult, man or woman, rich or poor. Everyone has experienced moments or bouts of loneliness at some point in their lives. Loneliness is a serious problem in modern countries such as the United States and other countries. The feeling of ‘loneliness’ often coincides with the feeling of ‘boredom.’ Together, these feelings have led many to fall into alcoholism, depression, rebellion, affairs outside of marriage, and even suicide. Symptoms of loneliness appear whenever a person feels alienated, isolated, or even rejected by others within their surroundings. It turns out that loneliness does not always appear whenever one is alone; it appears when one is surrounded with a group people with whom one felt rejected or ignored. From this condition, we learn an important concept: the basic need of every human is to feel loved and accepted by his peers. Everyone wants to have a personal and intimate relationship with others around 16
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him, but many failed to build such a relationship. The result: loneliness. Feeling unwanted, lonely people gradually assume that they have no value and self-worth. Moreover, a lonely person always feels that only he alone is lonely, and that everyone else must have friends and are happy. This makes him feel even more alone, ignored, and rejected. Movies, TV commercials, and magazines often portray lovers’ relationships as unrealistically ideal and intimate. As a result, many people felt unsatisfied with themselves, and even with the people around them. They want to copy the romantic couples who are so ideal for each other, like a prince and a princess, even with the knowledge that it is a false notion. Sadly, many chase after dreams and abandon reality. 1. 2. 3. 4.
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What are the results of loneliness? Choosing friends or life-partners recklessly, “as long as I’m not alone.” Burying oneself in work, as long as there’s movement, loneliness can be ignored. Blaming one-self. Blaming others for their rejection. Because others reject him, he feels lonely; therefore it is their fault that he is lonely. Wasting time wallowing in self-pity. Because everyone else rejects him, he learns to pity himself. Being passive and non-responsive; has a hard time interacting with others and tends to focus on people’s flaws.
As Christians, such thought processes are very disruptive in our relationship with God. Let us refer to the Bible to find the recipe for dealing with loneliness:
MENGHADAPI MASALAH KESEPIAN (untranslated article by Ev. Wilson Suwanto)
KESEPIAN adalah hal yang umum dirasakan semua manusia, baik anak maupun orang dewasa, baik pria maupun wanita, baik kaya ataupun miskin. Setiap orang pasti pernah mengalami saat-saat kesepian. Dan kesepian adalah masalah serius di negaranegara maju, seperti Amerika dan lainnya. Perasaan ‘sepi’ seringkali bercampur dengan ‘bosan.’ Kedua perasaan ini banyak kali membawa orang jatuh dalam kecanduan alcohol, depresi, pemberontakan anak remaja terhadap orang tua, gangguan kejiwaan, penyelewengan dalam pernikahan, bahkan bunuh diri. Perasaan sepi biasanya juga timbul ketika seseorang merasa “diasingkan”, “dikucilkan”, atau bahkan “ditolak” oleh orang-orang di sekitarnya. Ternyata kesepian bukan muncul ketika tidak ada orang di sekitar kita. Itu muncul justru ketika banyak orang di sekitar kita, tetapi kita merasa mereka tidak peduli dan menolak kita. Dari kondisi ini, kita belajar sesuatu yang penting, yaitu: kebutuhan dasar setiap manusia adalah kasih dan penerimaan dari sesamanya manusia. Setiap orang ingin mempunyai hubungan yang personal dan akrab dengan sesamanya, namun banyak orang gagal dalam membangun relasi demikian. Akibatnya: kesepian. Karena merasa ditolak, banyak orang merasa diri mereka tidak berharga dan tidak ada gunanya. Lebih lagi, orang yang kesepian selalu berpikir bahwa hanya dia yang kesepian, dan semua orang lain pasti punya teman dan merasa bahagia. Ini membuat dia merasa semakin tersendiri, terkucil, dan tertolak. Film, iklan televisi, dan majalah sering menggambarkan hubungan sepasang kekasih yang sangat ideal dan intim. Akibatnya AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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1. Believe that God is near and is always with us. In John 16: 32, Jesus said, “Yet I am not alone because the Father is with me.” At the moment of crucifixion, He knows that everyone will leave him, and yet He perseveres because he knows that God the Father is with Him. Jesus also promises never to leave us. (Hebrews 13:5) 2. Be faithful in attending church fellowships and bible studies. God knows that an individual person is bound to feel weak and lonely. That is why He erases our sins as a Church, a body of believers. Whenever two or three people gather, there God will be. This means that God really wants his children to participate in church fellowships. 3. Paying attention to others. Lonely people tend to think only of themselves. We can change our way of life by thinking of others and their needs. By paying attention to others, we feel the presence of God’s love in our hearts and we no longer feel lonely. Oppositely, when we ask for attention, we only think of ourselves and this is what causes loneliness. CONCLUSION Loneliness is not necessarily good or bad. We don’t have to feel proud or ashamed whenever we feel lonely as loneliness is a condition that can be changed or used for a greater purpose. For example, when we feel lonely, we pray to God, we learn to faithfully attend church fellowship, we serve God, we pray for others, and work on important things. The psalmist who felt lonely and frustrated fills the emptiness of his soul with the presence of God. He defeats loneliness by “praying to the living God” (Psalm 42). [RA] 18
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banyak orang merasa tidak puas dengan keadaan dirinya, bahkan dengan orangorang di sekitarnya. Mereka ingin meniru bintang iklan atau bintang film dalam hubungan yang ideal bagaikan Prince and Princess. Padahal kita semua tahu bahwa itu hanya impian belaka, tidak ada dalam kenyataan. Sayangnya, banyak orang bukan mengejar kenyataan, tetapi impian. Apa saja akibat dari perasaan kesepian? Sembarangan memilih teman atau pasangan hidup. “Asal tidak kesepian,“ kata mereka. 2. Sembarangan mencari kesibukan. Asal kaki dan tangan bergerak, perasaan kesepian bisa diusir. 3. Menyalahkan diri sendiri. 4. Menyalahkan orang lain. Karena orang lain menolak dia, maka dia merasa kesepian. Akibatnya, dia pikir bahwa orang lain yang salah. 5. Menghabiskan banyak waktu mengasihani diri sendiri. Karena orang lain semua menolak dia, maka dia belajar mengasihi dan mengasihani diri sendiri. 6. Pasif dan tidak responsif. Tidak mudah berinteraksi dengan orang lain, dan cenderung menganggap semua orang sama buruknya. 1.
Sebagai orang Kristen, pemikiran demikian sangat mengganggu hubungan kita dengan Tuhan. Untuk itu, mari kita melihat Alkitab agar menemukan resep menghadapi kesepian dengan baik. Langkah-langkah seorang Kristen menghadapi kesepian adalah: 1.
Percaya bahwa Tuhan dekat dan bersama kita. Dalam Yohanes 16:32 Yesus berkata, “Aku tidak sendiri karena Bapa bersamaKu.” Di saat Dia mengha-
GOD is with US The Lord is a never failing friend. It’s in the Bible, Deuteronomy 31:8, NIV. “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” When lonely because someone you love has died, God is with you. It’s in the Bible, Psalm 23:4, TLB. “Even when walking through the dark valley of death I will not be afraid, for You are close beside me, guarding, guiding all the way.” If parents reject us, God never will. It’s in the Bible, Psalm 27:10, TLB. “For if my father and mother should abandon me, You would welcome and comfort me.” God will never leave us orphaned. It’s in the Bible, John 14:18, TLB. “No, I will not abandon you or leave you as orphans in the storm—I will come to you.” We are never totally alone. It’s in the Bible, Hebrews 13:5, NIV. “God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’” source: http://en.bibleinfo.com/topics/topic.html?id=171
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dapi salib, Dia tahu bahwa semua akan meninggalkan Dia. Namun Dia teguh karena tahu bahwa Bapa selalu bersama Dia. Tuhan juga berjanji tidak akan pernah meninggalkan kita (Ibr. 13:5). Setia menghadiri persekutuan dan kebaktian gereja. Tuhan tahu bahwa sebagai manusia, kita bisa merasa sepi dan lemah. Itu sebabnya Ia menebus kita sebagai sebuah umat/gereja, bukan sendirian. Dimana dua tiga orang berkumpul, disitu Tuhan hadir. Ini berarti Tuhan sangat mendorong perkumpulan anak-anakNya untuk beribadah. Memperhatikan sesama manusia. Orang yang kesepian cenderung memikirkan keadaan dirinya. Kita bisa mengubah arah hidup ketika mulai berpikir tentang kebutuhan orang lain. Dengan memperhatikan orang lain, kita merasakan adanya kasih Tuhan dalam hati. Dengan demikian, kita tidak akan kesepian. Sebaliknya, ketika kita minta diperhatikan, kita hanya memikirkan diri sendiri, dan ini yang menyebabkan kesepian.
KESIMPULAN Perasaan sepi bukanlah sesuatu yang baik atau buruk. Kita tidak harus merasa bangga atau malu ketika merasa sepi. Kesepian merupakan sebuah keadaan yang bisa diubah dan digunakan untuk hal yang baik. Misalnya: ketika merasa sepi, kita berdoa pada Tuhan, kita belajar setia ke gereja, memperhatikan sesama kita, melayani Tuhan, mendoakan orang lain, mengerjakan hal-hal yang penting dan berguna. Seperti pemazmur yang merasa kesepian dan putus asa, kekosongan jiwanya dipuaskan dan diisi dengan kehadiran Tuhan. Ia mengalahkan kesepian melalui “doa kepada Allah yang hidup” (Mazmur 42). [RA] AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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ave you noticed that you aren’t the only one talking to your teen? I don’t mean your teen’s friends or teachers, as influential as those conversations are. No, I am talking about the people whose faces you will never see, the ones behind the thousands of advertising messages that bombard our young people every day.
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I am thinking of the filmmakers, TV producers and thousands of special interest groups who know (sometimes better than Mom and Dad) that our teenagers are the future. They are working from this pragmatic belief: “Teach the teenagers how to think and you own the future.” Thankfully, many parents are wary about the messages their sons and daughters are getting, even while realizing it’s virtually impossible to filter these messages from a teen’s experience. However, that might not be all bad. If the sheer persistence of these messages forces us as parents to teach our teenagers how to think about life and learn to filter messages for themselves, then we have given our young people the ability to think critically. And, hopefully, our teens also will be trained to defend their faith in a world increasingly hostile to family values and Christian faith. There are not two realities, but only one reality, and that is the reality of God, which has become manifest in Christ in the reality of the world. — Dietrich Bonhoeffer
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Just five years ago we might not have been having a conversation about society’s messages. Sure, we knew that the media influence wasn’t necessarily good for our teens, but few of us knew just how bad it was for them. There is one term that helps us understand the profound impact today’s culture has on our kids: worldview. This term was popularized by The Barna Group’s recent research, which shockingly reported that only 9 percent of born-again Christians have a biblical worldview. There’s a buzz around the term worldview. This is good news for parents because when we look at media issues (and the myriad of other issues facing our teens) from a worldview, we are addressing root causes of belief and behavior. Let’s start by looking at some foundational definitions for worldview.
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consciously or subconsciously, which drive our emotions and what we think and do in unguarded moments — reflecting what we believe to be really real.” — Del Tackett
Know what is the core distinction: truth vs. lie. Answer the question, “What is really real?”
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The first step in engaging your teen around the topic of worldview is to ask him the provocative question, “What is really real?” I recently asked one teen this question. After his initial look of “What kind of question is that?” he realized that I wanted a sincere answer. His second look was more contemplative. At that point, I knew I had hooked him. His first answer: “I think what’s really real is what I can touch, put my hand on. I can see it, feel it, know it is real.” Now it was my turn to say, “Hmm. Is that so?” And with that we were off on an odyssey of discussing what a worldview is and what undergirds how we think about the most important questions of life, meaning and existence. By the way, as you might have noticed from this teen’s response, it was a typical naturalist worldview. If it can’t be proven by science, then it cannot be considered definitively “real.” I followed his comment with: “Is justice real? How do I prove that?” This is why God’s Word is the source of all primary truth. Because it speaks to all the questions about who God is, who man is, what is right and other core questions of human existence, the Bible must always be the defining reference point for all primary truth. AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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Focus on the nature of God: the ultimate truth experience. Because truth is a person, Jesus Christ, the most important component of a Christian worldview is knowing God. For this reason, we say that all truth is rooted in the nature of God. In fact, thinking like a Christian produces the most important action of all: loving God. When we think right, we do right. For this reason (all primary truth comes from the nature of God), we see everything in life as sacred. There are no dichotomies between religious truth and other truths. It all belongs to God, and God’s truth bears on all of life. All of life.
� ������������������� ����������������������� ������������ Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.(Romans 12:1-2, NIV) The most important skill you can teach your teen is the renewing of his mind. The mistake many parents make is to try to renew their teen’s mind for him. Renewing the mind is a day-to-day process of thinking biblically. You might
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remember in our last issue we talked about how to choose God’s reality as the Bible defines it rather than alternate and counterfeit versions of reality. The car commercial that promises significance through horsepower and luxury is presenting a “truth claim” that is counter to the truth claims of the Bible. The world is full of counterfeit truth claims, but you can teach your teen to live according to God’s reality. When the mind is renewed, God’s will and reality become clearer. You may be thinking, But how do I teach my teen the skill of renewing the mind? To get started, you should first prepare your teen.�
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Begin by making sure your teen has the right set of expectations. Some people approach God’s Word with the wrong set of expectations. For example, does the Bible promise that if you follow all the commandments, you will have no struggles in life? Of course not. But it’s not uncommon for a person to read the Bible with this kind of faulty expectation. When your daughter opens the Bible, what should she expect? Teach her to look for who God is and what His world is really all about. Next, help her understand that reading the Bible is having a conversation with God. As she reads, she can look for things that apply to her own circumstances and place in life. The next step in helping your teen to renew their mind is to give them a biblical perspective.
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Put God’s Word into the context of your teen’s everyday life.Many parents make the mistake of assuming their teen’s world is the same as their own world. Start by looking closely at your teen’s world. Walk in his shoes. Listen to the messages he gets when he walks into the classroom every day where a biblical worldview is challenged. Consider the effect of video games he plays or TV he watches. Your first challenge is to step back and evaluate the
messages your son is getting throughout the day. Next, help your son gain a biblical perspective on these messages. Ask: • “What did you hear today that would have sounded out of place at our dinner table?” • “What are the promises that you heard on TV tonight? Are they true?” • “What message does that video game convey?” Speak about God’s truth in contrast to the other messages. You might say: “The Bible says you and I are going to live forever, and we have a unique opportunity every day to do things that will last into eternity. What do you think we could do today that would last forever?” Or, “When God looks at you, what does He see?” In addition to helping your teen gain a biblical perspective, you should also teach them about spending personal time with God.
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Encourage (don’t nag) your teen to commit to a specific time every day. Have him pick the time and spot. In my own parenting, this challenge led my wife and me to talk with our 14-year-old son about canceling all the video game time for the rest of the school year to make room in his life for prayer. Commitment takes sacrifice. Here are other suggestions: • Start out small (perhaps 10 or 15 minutes to begin). Divide the time into three simple activities: 1. Pray (ask God to speak through His Word and to give understanding) 2. Read 3. Reflect (ask “What did I just hear or learn about who God is and what His world is like?”) • Learn the art of asking great questions. Jesus asked so many good questions. In fact, He often answered a question with a question! Start by carving out time for you and your teen to talk. Engage your teen with life questions that apply directly to your teen’s circumstances. For example, you might ask, “Have you ever read anything in the Bible that might apply to that?” or “Have you looked at Proverbs to see what God might have to say about that?” What you can’t do is ask a question that has an obvious answer or that implies you already know what the right answer is, kind of a “warmer, warmer” sort of hunt for the answer. Make the question a legitimate one so your son finds the answer on his own. 24
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Of course, there are no hard and fast rules. Recently my son accompanied me on a business trip where we had a heart-to-heart talk. I was ready with life questions to get us talking. Before I started rattling off the questions, I asked God what He thought I should focus on. His answer surprised me: “Ask him what was his favorite part of the day.” Another important part of helping your teen to renew his mind is spending quality time with God’s people.
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Learning from God’s Word is a corporate activity. Your teen should learn from God’s Word with other people, starting with you. Listen to Dr. Dobson or another radio teacher on a regular basis, discuss Sunday’s sermon at the dinner table on Tuesday or attend a family camp this summer. Psychologists say your teen’s peer group is important to his development as a person.
Find rich environments where your teen can learn from God’s Word with his peer group. Often that will be a Biblefocused youth group, but it also might be a Bible study you start in your home, or a conference teens attend together. Continually evaluate the quality of the teaching and converse with your teen about what he is learning. Finally, in helping your teen to begin renewing their mind, emphasize the importance of the quest for truth.
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Discovering what it means to live out our faith is a lifelong journey as we integrate what we believe with every area of life. God will be with us, which is the most important part of the quest. Teach your teen that God desires to reveal His truth to us. God is personal. He talks to us all the time: through creation, through others, and most clearly through His Word. We can trust God’s Word, expecting that He will do what He promises: speak to us, lead us, provide for us, give us everything we need for life and godliness in Christ Jesus. Share your own quest with your teen so he knows the power of your story. Learning to think like a Christian requires renewing the mind. Teaching your teen how to do this and live according to God’s will — and why that’s important — might be the best gift you can give. [TA] Source: Focus on Your Child (A Ministry of Focus on the Family) www.focusonyourchild.com/faith/reallyreal/
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Take off your mask, my friend, The masquerade will soon be over, And the air is getting colder There is no need to pretend. We’ve been here for a long, long time, On the stage we looked so fine. But who knows what we’ll become, When the final hour comes? Take off your mask, my friend, Now that we can almost see the end, Aren’t you just a little bit tired Of this life you once desired? Take off your mask, my friend, Let’s see each other face to face, And walk together hand in hand To finish this never ending race! God is my help in every need; God does my every hunger feed; God walks beside me, guides my way, Through every moment of the day. I now am wise, I now am true, Patient, kind, and loving too. All things I am, can do, and be, Through Christ, the Truth that is in me. God is my health, I can’t be sick; God is my strength, unfailing, quick; God is my all, I know no fear, Since God and Love and Truth are here. poems by: Tante Mona AGAPE — Anniversary 2005
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faith,GOD,& FAITH, GOD, AND ROCK & ROLL follows the phenomena of Christian artists who do not label themselves as ‘Christian artists;’ believing that labels discourage many from listening to their potentially life-changing music. These artists love God with all their hearts as they try to make a difference in a beautiful world full of corrupted people and dreadful problems. They have not turned their backs on their faith and have continued to maintain their musical integrity. In reality, people seem to reject the Christian music industry, but they are not rejecting Christ because “the artists write and sing actually witnesses to their fans, laying seeds for people searching for relief to confusion and pain” as Mark Joseph references from Dave Mustaine. It is the label ‘Christian music’ that they seem to shy away from, or even avoid. by: Marcia Japutra 26
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Mark Joseph 1860744656 (paperback) Sanctuary Publ., Ltd. $13.95 288 pages 7.3" x 6.0" x 0.8"
The ‘Bones’ of the Book
“A small but growing number of Christian musicians are fighting to be heard within mainstream culture – and turning the music world upside down in the process. They confound categorization, marrying spiritually informed lyrics with musical styles that have traditionally been hostile to the Christian message. Rather than being doomed to obscurity in the Christian music subculture, they achieve full impact through integration.” The group P.O.D. (Payable on Death) “did not consider itself ‘Christian band’ making ‘Christian music.’” Instead as a group, they saw themselves as “Christians making music about their lives, including their love for God, in the center of popular culture.” P.O.D. had signed with Atlantic Record in hopes that they shun away from the marginalizing terms that eventually keep their music away from the NonChristians. Many artists have gone on the same direction as P.O.D did when it comes to avoiding the marginalizing terms that may keep their music away from the nonChristians.“To call something ‘Christian’ implies that what that organization has to offer is only for Christians;” they wanted their music to be available to everyone so that it may become a stepping stone for non-believers towards knowing Christ. “Warner Brothers executive Barry Landis worked hard to allow artists such as Plus One and P.O.D. to have access to both mainstream and Christian-owned bookstores and to be accessible to the entire culture without limiting labels”.
• Creed was “advancing through its music with a generally Judeo-Christian worldview and specifically, Christiancentered worldview that had long been kept on the fringes of mainstream American media, and especially in the world of rock music”. • P.O.D. was “out in front of a new movement of people of faith into mainstream rock, away from the wild excess of the founders of rock and pious escapism of the Christian music industry…Moreover, their mission was to take their music and their message to the world”. • Lifehouse finds “that worshipful songs written for their Cod could be understood and appreciated so long as labels were avoided and the work was done in the mainstream culture by artists who had learned to speak its language and allowed their music to be primary agent of communicating their faith.” • MxPx “was living proof that rock music played well, combined with lyrics that reflected deep Christian convictions, could indeed win the attention of the culture if it wasn’t a gimmick and the passion for faith was matched by a passion for the craft of rock music”. • Destiny’s Child is a group with a clear mission even though the delivery was sometimes conflicting. Michelle Williams said, “I know we sing R&B… but we don’t promote premarital sex, drugs and alcohol or do those things. I’m here to help change the world – not have the world change me”.
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• Jars of Clay “had conclusively proved… that people of faith could indeed make great rock music that could also be enjoyed by people who didn’t necessarily share that faith, but were still open to hearing about their spiritual journey; especially when that journey was wrapped up in shared experiences, feelings, and appealing music”.
from Christian Music Planet: A review by Carol Crenshaw
• Mary Mary “reflect a new generation of Afro-American artists who refuse to disappear in to gospel music or change their Christian beliefs". “For the first time, on a mass scale in the middle of the popular entertainment culture, rock was getting religion – understanding its power to transform, engage, and illuminate a generation hungering for spiritual renewal, enlightenment, and ultimate meaning”. [MJ]
“Faith, God, and Rock & Roll” is an intriguing look at the beliefs and motives of Christians who have decided to use their musical talents in the mainstream market. While recounting the success of mainstream bands such as P.O.D., Lifehouse and Sixpence None the Richer, Joseph’s book outlines the growing trend of Christian rock artists opting to enter the secular market rather than stay in the Christian music industry. The message of Joseph’s book can be taken two ways: As a battle cry for the “roaring lambs,” who are shining light into the dark world of secular rock music or a slam on the practices of the Christian music industry. The term “roaring lambs” came from the book by the same title penned by the late Bob Briner, who challenged Christians to influence modern culture by using their talents to offer an alternative to, rather than criticize, secular media. The Christian music industry, according to Joseph, is made up of the record labels that eschew secular culture and promote artists who sing of God to fellow church-goers. Enticing are the testimonies of Christian artists who cite the reasons they left the Christian music industry for the mainstream. Enthralling are the stories of artists who are Christians, yet sidestepped the Christian music industry altogether. On the side of Christian music converts are P.O.D., MxPx and Lifehouse, while U2’s Bono, Lenny Kravitz and Alice Cooper are featured as artists who claim to believe in Christ, but never entertained the idea of entering Christian music. Many give the reason that they believe their music is for everyone, not a select few (the church). Others, like Kendall Payne, say that this is their chance to be “salt and light” in darkness. Joseph contends that many artists avoid the Christian music industry because of its proclivity to sing to the choir. He cites the record label executives as “unwilling or unable” to help Christian artists reach people who don’t share their faith. He equates Christian music to “cultural obscurity.” Whichever side of “Faith, God, and Rock & Roll” you land on, one thing is for sure: This book is going to generate a lot of heated discussion about Christians in mainstream music forsaking their Christian values and Christian music artists not fulfilling Jesus’ commission. Get the aspirin. www.christianmusicplanet.com/magazine/viewarticle.asp?id=182 28
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The Graduates on a Roll by: Janice Atmadja
In this year, like any other year, several youths from IEC Azusa enter the next steps into adulthood…the journey to college! Our college-bound youths share with us which college they’re going to, what their major will be, and their feelings about the road ahead.
Graduate: Cleve Hosea College: University of California, Riverside Major: Biochemistry Why this college: It’s the farthest away from home… >.< Things he’ll have most difficulty with in college: everything… Things he’ll miss the most about home life: food… Wisdom shared from the now official “adult”: Stay strong and work hard! Favorite quote: “Do or Do Not” Shoutouts: To everyone, “I LOVE YOU!!”
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Graduate: Rachel Atmadja College: Cal Poly San Luis Obispo Major: Architecture Why this college: “I visited its open house. It was so impressive when it came to reputation, the people were nice, and the location is great. I love it!” Things she’ll have most difficulty with in college: night-owls rock :) (staying awake) Things you’ll miss the most about home life: I’ll miss my biological and my church family, my dogs, and rice. Wisdom shared from the now official “adult”: Give all credit to God. Favorite quote: “Speak now, or forever hold your peace.” Shoutouts: To Mom and Dad, Janice and Chris, “Thank you for being patient with me every time I’m in a sour mood. I will miss you guys!”
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Graduate: Marcia Japutra College: California State University of LA Major: Math Why this college: food and more family members and friends around the area. Great teaching program. Things she’ll have most difficulty with in college: staying away from traffic :P Things she’ll miss the most about home life: Nothing, possibly free books :P Wisdom shared from the now official “adult”: Don’t over stress and burn out because there are still a lot more ahead of you. Favorite quote: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are my ways your ways, declares the Lord” (Isaiah 55:8) Shoutouts: to my Dad and Mom and brother, “Thank you for all your love, support, and encouragements.” 30
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Graduate: Carmen Seetho College: University of California Irvine Why this college: it’s closer and it’s friendlier. Things she’ll have most difficulty with in college: no more cool cousins!___ Winna Siti Things she’ll miss about home life: Like 12 people living in my house and hanging out with them. Wisdom shared from the now official “adult”: Um…high school is cool, life is cool, and God is very cool! Favorite quote: “Silly rabbit, trix are for kids!” Shoutouts: to Mom, “Hey!”
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ored of eating at the same restaurants for your special occasions? Are you short on variety and choices? For this
month, Agape has done a little restaurant-scouting and one restaurant that stood out from the rest is a restaurant on the corner of Fullerton and Colima, the server of exotic Thai cuisine, Baimon.
The Atmosphere: “Very home-like.” Baimon is a small, relaxing restaurant located right behind the already famous Banana Bay. It is less visible than its neighbor, but little Baimon is certainly attracting diners’ attentions to their pungent, spice-full dishes. If you like the pungent taste of thai spice in your mouth, then this restaurant is for you. Baimon does not sacrifice price for taste. Its reasonably-prized dishes may be a little more expensive than Banana Bay, but its dishes are more authentic in flavor, and its presentation more pleasing to the eye.
The Dishes: “Authentic and Spice-full” The spicy papaya salad was perfect for an appetizer, it was exquisitely-prepared. My initial reaction was to notice the sourness of the salad dressing, later to be counterbalanced by the papaya, small dried shrimps, and 32
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the faint taste of peanut-sauce. Baimon’s fish dishes are cooked until the fish bones become soft and sautéed with a pungent sauce characteristic of Thai-food. For lovers of simple, classic Thai-dishes, the mint-leaf fried rice is more than filling. Noted for its spiciness, most diners asked that the mint-leaf fried rice be of medium-spiciness, since very few people could handle the dish at a ‘spicy’ level, not even my mother who likes to eat sambal terasi. Its Thai tea is apparently a very popular beverage with their customers; probably because the strong flavors in the food created a great thirst for this drink, which I also ordered. It certainly complements the meal and the whole feel of traditional Thai cuisine.
The Service The service at the restaurant was not bad although they could use more servers. Despite the shortage of servers, the food still came quickly. The tiny restaurant was still bustling at 8:30 p.m., they were so busy that the waitress left a pitcher of cold water for us to pour on our glasses because she had to seat the still-coming guests! So if you are tired of your usual weekend restaurants and are looking to explore, give Baimon a try! [JA] Baimon Exotic Thai Cuisine Mon-Sun 11 a.m. - 9:30 p.m. orner of Fullerton & Colima) 1741 Fullerton Rd (corner Rowland Heights, CA 91748 Tel: (626) 964 6851 Fax: (626) 810 5838
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Sea of Faces by Kutless Sources: www.christianguitar.org www.christianlyricsonline.com Capo 3 (Intro) G Cadd9 Em Cadd9 (Verse 1) G Cadd9 Em I see the city lights all around me Cadd9 Everyone’s obscure G Cadd9 Em Ten million people each with their problems Cadd9 Why should anyone care (Pre-Chorus) D/F# Em C2 And in Your eyes I can see (Chorus) G D/F# C2 I am not just a man, vastly lost in this world Em D/F# G Lost in a Sea of Faces D/F# C2 Your body’s the bread, Your blood is the wine Em D/F# G Because you traded Your life for mine (Verse 2) Sometimes my life it feels so trivial Immersed in the greatness of space Yet somehow you still find the time for me It’s then You show me Your love 34
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(Pre-Chorus) And In Your eyes I can see And in Your arms I will be (Chorus) (Bridge) Em G If only my one heart Am C2 Was all you’d gain from all it cost Em G Well I know you would have still been a man Am With a reason C2 To willingly offer your life (Ending) G D/F# C2 I am not just a man, vastly lost in this world Em D/F# G Lost in a Sea of Faces D/F# C2 Your body’s the bread, Your blood is the wine Em D/F# Am Because you traded Your life for mine C2 D/F# G Just one in a million faces
“Preach the gospel at all times. If necessary, use words.” (St. Francis of Assisi)
“A thorough knowledge of the Bible is worth more than a college education.” (Theodore Roosevelt)
“If you were arrested for being a Christian, would there be enough evidence to convict you?” (David Otis Fuller)
“You will never know that Jesus is all you need until Jesus is all you’ve got.” (Mother Teresa)
“I can contribute nothing to my own salvation, except the sin from which I need to be redeemed.” (William Temple)
“Whatsoever we beg of God, let us also work for it.” (Jeremy Taylor)
“What our Lord said about cross-bearing and obedience is not in the fine type. It is in bold print on the face of the contract.” (Vance Havner)
“Defend the Bible? I would just as soon defend a lion. Just turn the Bible loose. It will defend itself.” (Charles Haddon Spurgeon)
“Keep praying, but be thankful that God’s answers are wiser than your prayers.” (William Culbertson)
“There’s nothing written in the Bible...that says if you believe in me, you ain’t going to have no troubles.” (Ray Charles)
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Dear Mommy Esther, No words can express how much I love you I appreciate everything that you do From the times I fell and got a bruise or cut To the time you came in my room and you hit my butt I know you punish me out of pure love But what I really need is just your loving hug. Even when I didn’t need help you were always there for me You never left me alone cause I know you care for me Being your son is what I’m proud to be And I’ll love you always and forever My love for you nothing could ever measure. From your baby boy, Jason 36
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Dear Mommy, When I fall and stumble You were always there to pick me up I know I am trouble But thank you for taking me with you... Mom... you’ve given life to me Now that I see.... Just makes me want to tell you.. That everything I’ve done it’s true... It’s just for you... When I was having trouble Just a couple You were there... And you cared... I’m sorry for the hard times... I’m sorry for my crimes... I know I’ve hurt you But I’ve come to say... I love you... From your baby boy, Albert
Dear Mommy Milka, I will never forget all the things you’ve done for me You really showed me what love really meant to me You constantly watch over me and our family For this I owe you everything Nothing could repay your unconditional love Not even the money in my bank account Nothing in the world could ever replace you There’s nothing more I can say For the wonderful things you have done for me The best mother is who you are, for what I’m thanking you. From your baby boy, Duma
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by: Rachel Yao
Can you find
the 18 words hidden in this jumble of letters? The first person to find all of these words and show it to cici Rachel Yao at the church library on Sunday, 9/11/05, will get a free ice cream and a free candy! (Participants must be 13 years old or younger, parents and/or older friends are strongly advised not to help. Be honest, God is watching.)
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DRAMAS FELLOWSHIP GOD MINISTRY
MUSIC PASTOR PRAISE PRAYER SING
SUNDAYSCHOOL TEACHERS TESTAMENT VOLUNTEERS WORSHIP
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Live by faith ~ Act with courage!
- Why Adam Needed Eve 10. God worried that Adam would always be lost in the garden because He knew men would never ask for directions. 9. God knew that Adam would one day need someone to hand him the TV remote because men don‛t want to see what is on TV; they want to see WHAT ELSE is on TV. 8. God knew that Adam would never buy a new fig leaf when the seat wore out and therefore would need Eve to get one for him. 7. God knew that Adam would never make a doctor‛s appt for himself. 6. God knew that Adam would never remember which night was garbage night. 5. God knew that if the world was to be populated there would have to someone to bear children because men would never be able to handle it. 4. As Keeper of the Garden Adam would never remember where he put his tools. 3. The Scripture account of creation indicates that Adam needed someone to blame his troubles on when God caught him hiding in the garden. 2. As the Bible says, “It is not good for man to be alone”, he only ends up getting himself in trouble. And the NUMBER ONE reason... 1. When God finished the creation of Adam he stepped back, scratched his head and said, “I can do better than that.”
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- 10 Things You Never Hear in Church 1. 2.
Hey! It‛s MY turn to sit on the front pew! I was so enthralled, I never noticed your sermon went over time 25 minutes. 3. Personally, I find witnessing much more enjoyable than golf. 4. I‛ve decided to give our church the $500.00 a month I used to send to TV evangelists. 5. I volunteer to be the permanent teacher for the Junior High Sunday School class. 6. Forget the denominational minimum salary: let‛s pay our pastor so s/he can live like we do. 7. I love it when we sing hymns I‛ve never heard before! 8. Since we‛re all here, let‛s start the worship service early! 9. Pastor, we‛d like to send you to this Bible seminar in the Bahamas. 10. Nothing inspires me and strengthens my commitment like our annual stewardship campaign!
- Died in the Service A young lad was vising a church for the first time, checking all the announcements and posters along the walls. When he came to a group of pictures of men in uniform, he asked a nearby usher, “Who are all those men in the pictures?” The usher replied, “Why, those are our boys who died in the service.” Dumbfounded, the youngster asked, “Was that the morning service or evening service?”
- Hilarious Quotes Some ministers would make good martyrs; they are so dry they would burn well. (Charles Haddon Spurgeon) A young girl once confessed to her priest that she thought she was guilty of the sin of pride. She said, “When I look in the mirror, I think I am beautiful.” The priest said, “That‛s not a sin, that‛s a mistake.” (Rev. James Whitcomb Brougher, Sr.) You know it‛s going to be a boring service when the ushers ask for your espresso order as they had you a bulletin (Bill Jones) Some people say, “I go to church, so I am a Christian.” But that‛s like saying if you go to McDonald‛s you are a Quarter Pounder (Adam Christing) They have Dial-a-Prayer for atheists now. You can call up and it rings and rings but nobody answers. (Tommy Blaze) 40
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